Domestic violence or intimate partner violence can happen in any relationship. Often times, domestic violence is only discussed within a hetero-normative, binary context. However, we know that individuals identifying as female, individuals within the 2SLGBTQIA+ community, and Indigenous individuals are at higher risk of violent victimization. Violence is related to power and people who have less power can be more vulnerable to violence because they are an easier target, because they are less likely to be protected or are more likely to be blamed, or because they may have less places to go to get help.
Here are some definitions and examples to help identify unhealthy or abusive relationships for 2SLGBTQIA+ people. If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship, you can call our crisis and support line 24 hours a day at 519-752-4357. You can also find helpful tips for safety planning here.
Intimate Relationship – involves physical and/or emotional closeness and openness between two individuals, regardless of the length of the relationship.
Intimate Partner Violence – refers to any behaviour within an intimate relationship that causes physical, psychological or sexual harm to those in the relationship. Such behaviours can include any combination of the following:
- Physical violence such as hitting, punching, kicking, slapping
- Psychological abuse such as intimidation, belittling, humiliation
- Sexual violence forced intercourse and unwanted sexual touching
- Coercive control various controlling behaviours such as isolating a partner from their family and friends, restricting their access to resources, and controlling their finances
- Stalking a pattern of threatening or harassing tactics that causes an individual to fear for their health, safety, or wellbeing
Social and legal stigma of being LGBTQ2S+ broadens significantly the scope of abusive tactics available to an exploitative partner. These tactics often include taking advantage of an individual’s gender representation or sexual orientation.
Closeting – forcing a victim to hide their trans or sexual minority status from others by overtly demanding or pressuring the victim to remain quiet about their status
Outing – the opposite of closeting. disclosing a victim’s trans or sexual minority status to others, either directly by telling people, or indirectly by forcing the victim to show public signs of affection like hand holding and kissing
Threats – threats to out the victim’s trans or minority status, threats against the victim or victim’s family, and threats of self-harm or suicide
Identity abuse – abusers may use a victim’s marginalized social status to control or shame them. using a transgender person’s birth name or former pronouns without permission.
Withholding medical treatment – stopping victims from treatment needed to express their gender identity, such as through withholding financial support or requesting repayment through illegal or undesirable acts
Other anti- sexual minority psychological ipv tactics – can include examples of the following: – accusing a victim of not being lesbian, gay, or bisexual enough – telling bisexual victims they are not a “real” sexual minority – accusing a sexual minority victim of making the abuser a sexual minority